There is no denying it. Sexual abuse is very prevalent in the IFB churches. It happens way too often and many times at the hands of the churches most esteemed members or even the pastor himself.
When sexually abuse happens, the victim is usually the one to get looked down on. The pastor often thinks they did something to deserve this. They weren’t in God’s will and did something to upset him.
Some girls are made to read letters of apology to the congregation. Some their families turn their backs on them. Some are made out to look like whores and sluts, the pastors saying that they asked for it. Some are told that their dress is too suggestive or the way that they walk is suggestive. Some are put down to the point that they see their life as worthless.
The abuser gets off free, usually. Usually he is just told to not let it happen again. He is allowed to work with children in ministries still. He is sometimes “promoted” even. He is usually esteemed by the pastor. The pastors will side with him and saying that the girl seduced him.
These girls (and boys) who are abused are stuck most of the time. They have no help. They learn on their own how to deal with the pain and grief. Most of the parents will side with the pastors and some parents (sad to say) are the abusers. These victims survive by going along with whatever the pastor says and hope that one day it will all end.
You may wonder why no one calls the police. It is installed in IFB children from a young age that you do not call the police. You go to your parents or pastor first. Plus in sermons they are taught to never press charges against a fellow Christian. This then allows for cover ups of a lot of things.
Many of the victims, do blame themselves for this happening. When this happened, I thought that it was because I didn’t go up to the altar to pledge my virginity. For years I hated myself for this and thought that what I had happened was my punishment. I went though so much due to this. Depression, anxiety, nightmares, stress, and it goes on.
So many children and women suffer at the hands of these “men of God.” A lot of it goes unknown. Many times when the victim does speak up they find that it is too late to press charges, due to the years that have gone by. So for some they never get the justice.
It is sad really that men who claim to do the work of God, would hurt so many people. I also don’t understand why God would allow them to go on doing this.